The Beauty of Broken Women

WomenAre broken women the new black? Have the tables finally turned on the demands of perfectionism for women? After all, isn’t perfectionism the thin veil we hide behind that keeps us safe from people seeing the real us? Is perfectionism actually the wet blanket that keeps us safe because we fear that the world or people won’t really like us or like what they see….. because, in all honesty, the perfectionist doesn’t like herself?

If that’s the case then why has the myth of superwoman and the craziness of perfect overridden who we really are? Have we allowed this? Did we get sucked into a narrative that caused us to deny the truth of who we are or where we are in life? Have we denied the fragmentation of our lives so much that we’ve limped through in an effort to be who others needed us to be? Have we, in fact, denied ourselves?  Aren’t we all broken in some way, shape or form? I know I’ve lived through brokenness. Through broken dreams, broken heart, and pain that has run deep at times.

I love the words so eloquently crafted in Brene Brown’s ‘Manifesto of the Brave and Brokenhearted‘ it resonates with me. In my book that is coming out in December (published by Broadstreet Publishing) I share stories of women who have been broken and have found that resilience is their strength to carry on.

I’m posing this question (to whoever reads this) for a number of reasons.

1) because I believe wholeheartedly that we need to live free of shame and guilt and out of the shadows of our pain that have kept us hidden.

2) I’m seeing brokenness everywhere and it’s like there is this gravitational pull towards it. People are finding their voice in and through others who are choosing to be real.

3) We are all tired of fake. It’s old. It’s a killer and it’s exhausting.

4) If we are always focussing on the future or what’s next, we are being robbed of the truth of today. That message is telling us to ignore what’s real today and just look to the future for healing and goodness. All the good stuff seems to be somewhere else and the awkward, uncomfortable and painful are dismissed.

5) Pain and brokenness isn’t a bad thing that needs to be ignored or swept under the carpet.

If we look at some of the strong influential voices right now they have all stood up and bravely spoken out about their truth, their pain and their brokenness; Brene Brown, Glennon Melton Doyle, Jen Hatmaker, Diana Butler Bass, Anne Lamont, Lisa Gungor, Jaime Wright (just to name a few). This is something I’ve done in my book, I did my best to weave my own story throughout the stories of countless women that I interviewed across the globe. It’s a work that I’m super excited to share although fully anticipating a vulnerability hangover….. but guess what? That’s okay and I won’t be alone.

I was talking to someone the other day about the book, which by the way is called, ‘You are More’ and I said that I feel like it’s going to be another opportunity for people to EXHALE. I, on the other hand, will be holding my breath until I hear from some of you who read it :).

Consider some of the recent popular shows on TV: The Handmaid’s Tale. We are fascinated by the insanity of the show. Gilead is a totalitarian society ruled by a fundamentalist regime that treats women as property. Apparently, this was written based on aspects taken from certain countries which is the craziness of it all. Viewers are equally captivated and absolutely freaked out about the fact that ‘it could be’ and rather than ‘praise be’ they are saying, ‘what the actual’? Through this show, we watch Offred played by Elizabeth Moss become more and more broken and it’s her that we relate to. Her pain is real. Her lived experience painfully close to home for many whether it be through rape, control or loss of identity. Her facial expressions alone allow us to process our own pain as her character lives through hers.

What about Big Little Lies? A cast of A-list actresses (Nicole Kidman, Reece Witherspoon, Laura Dern, Shailene Woodley, Zoe Kravitz) play incredible characters. Immaculately dressed suburban mothers, successful husbands, stunning children and incredible homes. They are seemingly living lives of envy yet beneath the sheen and gloss there are rumours, fractured relationships between couples, parents and children and friendships. Characters endure domestic violence, there is the addiction to drugs, alcohol and careers. Pain is riddled through the storyline and again, viewers are captivated because finally, we are getting a glimpse into reality.

Life isn’t perfect, we don’t live in a world void of pain, sadness, rejection. Yes, tomorrow is another day and maybe the best is yet to come but for most, today is all that can be dealt with and thankfully we are finally in a place where we are saying enough is enough. Let me process, let me feel this and let me walk through it at my own speed because (as you’ll hear me say in my book) when the truth is out, we can walk through anything. Let’s stop with the shame and blame game and let’s give ourselves and everyone else permission to be whether that be broken, fractured or put back together and putting one foot in front of the other.

Let’s put on our pom poms and cheer each other on one step at a time and accept that it’s okay not to be okay.

Lastly, interested in making a change in your life? Applications are now open for the GetRealLive Retreat and we would love to host you. Spots are limited so apply now and be with us.


Inside the Quiet.

Like many people, I have tried over the years to stick to New Year’s resolutions and promises made to myself.

Like most, inevitably I fail a few weeks into the year. Whether it be my bad habits, the desire to shift some unneeded weight, the year I learn a new language or start to paint. The only resolution that I hold onto seems to be the one that promises I won’t do it. Resolutions, for whatever reason, have not worked for me.

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Social Media, Teens and the Judgement We Pass

Social Media

Social Media… it’s a jungle out there.

Firstly, let me say that I have been guilty of what I’m about to write. Why am I writing and exposing myself and possibly many of you who are reading? I’m writing because we need to address ‘Social Media, Teens and the Judgement We Pass’. We are raising teenagers and I’ve had a gut full of the harmful chatter. It’s time to say something.

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GetRealLive Radio is BACK!

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We are excited to invite you to join us tomorrow for GetRealLive Radio. Yes, there is Real Talk Radio with myself and Mark Zschech and back by popular demand and much planning, Nicole Liboiron and I are hitting the air waves tomorrow morning and we would love for you to join us.

 

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Tomorrow we have a really interesting guest. Author, Joseph Wakim, will be with us and he will be sharing his story about losing his wife and how he had to step in and raise his 3 Daughters on his own. Published by Allen & Unwin the book is called, ‘What my Daughters Taught Me.’ It has been described as a ‘brilliantly honest memoir … hilariously so’ and also a ‘fight against gender and cultural stereotypes’.

The book not only deals candidly with father-daughter relationships, but also with resilience, hope, faith, masculinity, strength, grief and the ‘humour hormone’.

Tune in tomorrow at 10am (Sydney AEDT) and be part of the conversation. We will be taking calls, answering questions and comments from Instagram, Facebook and Twitter.

Click on the link below to listen live or on demand

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Caitlin Roper chats to Susan & Nicole about Sexual Abuse and Violent Crimes towards Women

GetRealLive is passionate about keeping girls safe and doing what we can to celebrate the girls in our world and others across the globe. True to us, we love to tell peoples story and to hear and share and we are confident this will be one that we will remember for a long time to come.

Joining us tomorrow, we have Caitlin Roper who is an Activist, Survivor and State Coordinator for Collective Shout which is a grassroots movement against the objectification of women and sexualisation of girls in media, advertising and popular culture.Read More


Our Partners Helping Australians Get Organised

We are so grateful to be partnering with some great Australian Professional Organisers as we bring you Peter Walsh: Live in Sydney at the Sydney Theatre.

We want to take a moment to introduce you to them personally and give you the opportunity to engage with them.

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Pinklily is an amazing organisation that is able to create the wardrobe you’ve always dreamed of. Discover products that will transform the way you feel and care for your clothing, shoes and accessories.

No more “I’ve got nothing to wear” moments. All your beautiful possessions at your fingertips. Imagine your wardrobe calling out to you and welcoming you rather than feeling like the doors are bursting with drama.

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AAPO is the industry association for Professional Organisers. AAPO is an exceptional organisation who have been extremely easy to work with. We are grateful to be partnering with them. AAPO are hosting Peter at their annual conference on the Gold Coast in July 2014. For more details visit their website.

 

 

 

 

 

 

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We are really happy to have Heavenly Order on board as well. Heavenly Order is about making your life run as smoothly as possible, no matter what the circumstances. Being organised is not about perfection, it’s about being prepared for life. We offer hope to the overwhelmed and tired! Sarah Cottman, owner of Heavenly Order, has personally overcome the confusion and chaos that comes with Chronic Disorganisation.

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Need Rescuing? Well, Clutter Rescue is here and ready…. Helen from Clutter Rescue says, ‘I’m just like you – juggling everything that comes into my life, some times succeeding, sometimes just coping.’ Clutter Rescue has been created in an effort to bring much needed help your way, they provide real honesty and advice from a woman who walks in the same shoes as you! Their website is for busy Mums wanting more balance in their lives. Helen understands that it might seem strange thinking that getting organised, having a decluttered space and schedule, and having helpful kids will give you more balance – but her promise is that it will!

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I can personally recommend this company to you as I have used them in my own life. 1-800-Got-Junk are a wonderful organisation that come in and help sort out your space in a way that is like no other. Their staff are trained exceptionally and truly understand what it means to be overwhelmed by your stuff or simply time poor. In my case, we were moving countries and at the end of the packing we had one ‘storage’ room that contained the leftovers or the things that didn’t have a home. We needed help and we needed it quick. A call to 1-800-Got-Junk and they were there in a professional moment, ready and willing to help us rid ourselves of the excess.

Additionally, 1-800-Got-Junk has partnered with us in Canada when we hosted Peter Walsh for our #CalgarySpringClean Live Event. 1-800-Got-Junk were on board and at the venue ready to collect gently used items that our attendees generously donated to WINS (Women’s in Need Society). Again, their professionalism and kind service were greatly appreciated. At every turn and with every experience 1-800-Got-Junk has delivered more than they have taken away and we are grateful for their partnership.


Peter Walsh Live on GetRealLive Radio

Peter Walsh T & TJoin us LIVE with PETER WALSH

for a 1 hour special Talk & Tweet on February 10th

Make sure you FOLLOW THE HASHTAG #peterwalshSYD on all of your social spaces and use the hashtag to stay connected to the conversation.

Come with your questions and ready to be involved in a conversation that will definitely change your life. Also, joining the conversation is Tania Venn from 1-800-Got-Junk and we promise, some of her stories will leave you shocked and laughing in your seat. Plus, we will share how we are endeavouring to make a difference with the organisation we are supporting which is Vinnies.

Make sure you mark your diary and tune in and together we’ll make the Live Experience one to remember!

How to Connect:

TIME:  12:30pm (Australia) for all other listeners can I suggest you check out World Clock to find out what time this is for you… this just makes it easier for me if you find your time and make it work.

RADIO: Listen thru BlogTalk Radio HERE

TWITTER: Join the Live Twitter Conversation HERE 

CALL IN: Call into the Show with your questions on +1 718 508 9042 or click onto the BlogTalkRadio link above and connect via Skype – it’s super simple!

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