Teens, Social Media and the Judgement we Pass

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Social Media….

It’s a jungle out there. Firstly, let me say that I have been guilty of what I’m about to write. Why am I writing and exposing myself and possibly many of you who are reading? I’m writing because we need to address ‘Social Media, Teens and the Judgement We Pass’. We are raising teenagers and I’ve had a gut full of the harmful chatter. It’s time to say something.

Before I start, may I remind you of the biblical story found in John 8. This story pays reference to people living in glass houses ‘He who is without sin throw the first stone.’

What has me buzzing today? As a social media professional, I understand social spaces and offered the ‘behind the scenes view’ of posts, comments, snap stories, etc. My kids, however, would tell you that I don’t always get it right. I have, on occasion, misinterpreted things. This is where my guilt rests. Having teenagers and being the first generation of people to raise kids an overexposed world has caused my opinions to change.

Where is my frustration? It’s in the conversations outside of social media. I’ve been in them; heard them about other kids, and I been confronted with them about my kids. It annoying. We follow our kids; then we follow our kids’ friends; our kids let us follow them, and we see their life unfolding in front of us. Or, what we think is unfolding and we make comments outside of social spaces. What happens next? We talk about them and comment on their wild ways because of the what they post and sadly we judge them. They are put in boxes that they don’t deserve to be put in. A degree of marginalisation happens. Assumptions are made about them, and we chat about them. Before we know it, their reputations are tarnished. It’s appalling, and we need to check ourselves.

Thankfully Social Media Wasn’t Around During My Youthful Days…

I’m grateful that social media wasn’t around in my youth. I cringe when I think what could be out there for the world to see. There is one photo from my younger years that will stick with me forever. It’s one my kids have seen and although quite innocent it’s a moment that wasn’t one of my highlights. I tried to find it to share it, but it’s tucked away somewhere safe. It’s a picture of me, in a club with a tight, form-fitting white dress with black dots. I was sitting on Philip’s lap, cigarette in hand. It was innocent, however, had I posted, at the time, people would have made assumptions about me, they would have put me in a category. I can’t imagine knowing that my parents’ friends would see glimpses of my life exposed as I was discovering who I was and making mistakes.

I’m grateful that I wasn’t under the microscope and constantly in view. I’m thankful that my parents’ friends, my aunts and uncles rested knowing that I was probably up to something but remained constant in my life. They didn’t busy themselves chatting about my foibles and selfies. Instead, they helped me walk out my truth and gave me safe places to land. Places without judgement, ridicule, smerks, and ridiculous comments.Social Media

In some ways I guess this article is a cautionary tale. One that reminds us of how many selfies the kids we are talking about take before posting the perfect picture. One that also tells us to think about the way we post do question whether our posts bring expression to what is going on in our lives?

To the one who posts the perfect family, the greatest vacation, the dates with bae (ugh!) and the happy family off to church. We all know that the perfect family doesn’t exist. For example, our recent Christmas vacation was great, and we had some incredible highs that I posted. However, what you didn’t see was the fight in the airport and the moment when my husband was cranky at how I had packed and the weight of our bags. When he made us repack in the middle of the airport. Oh, the expletives I was letting go of. These scenes are the ones we leave out. For the happy family on route to church, I’m sure some Sundays are great, and you arrive intact but on other Sundays, the ‘road to church fight is underway’. As for the photo of the date with ‘your bae,’ I have no words.

Social Media is a jungle

So be kind and realise that what you see teens posting doesn’t mean they are on the wrong path. It doesn’t tell the entire story, it gives ridiculous highlights of the fun they are having, it’s only part of the story. Stop judging them based on a moment in time and yes, perhaps a stupid moment that they will regret posting. In most cases, they aren’t falling off the wagon. They aren’t on the highway to hell. They are living their life, they are exposed on every level, they never know when they are being filmed or when images are being captured. With that in mind step away from the keyboard, get off your high horse because it’s easier to get off than fall off. Become safe places for them, put your gavel down and lessen up on judging them. They don’t need Judge Judy in their life.

In the end…

These kids know the ins and outs of social media, it is part of the life they have lived, and your judgement doesn’t encourage them, it doesn’t build them, and it certainly doesn’t draw them closer. What it does is puts a wall or a block between you and them. It may be an actual block whereby they use their rights, and they prevent you from seeing their life unfold or, they apply their social media knowledge to your posts, and they don’t judge you, they simply call your b*ll$h*t and lose respect for you with every post. Harsh but true.

Susan

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Tomorrow we have a really interesting guest. Author, Joseph Wakim, will be with us and he will be sharing his story about losing his wife and how he had to step in and raise his 3 Daughters on his own. Published by Allen & Unwin the book is called, ‘What my Daughters Taught Me.’ It has been described as a ‘brilliantly honest memoir … hilariously so’ and also a ‘fight against gender and cultural stereotypes’.

The book not only deals candidly with father-daughter relationships, but also with resilience, hope, faith, masculinity, strength, grief and the ‘humour hormone’.

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Peter Walsh: Live in Sydney

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  • 1 in 4 Australians feel ANXIOUS | OVERWHELMED | DEPRESSED about the clutter in their homes
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  • 1 in 8 Australians have MOVED HOUSE to accommodate their superfluous ‘stuff’*

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Needless to say, the research continues and there are many more stats we could share about the mounting piles that  Australians are trying to dig themselves out of. Whether it be stuff, emotional clutter or even our increasing waist lines, our worlds seem to be bursting with the need for well needed clean sweeps, conversations and movement.

It would appear that we are drowning and thankfully there is help at hand. GetRealLive is throwing a much needed lifelife to overburdened and overwhelmed Australians who are hung over from years of overconsumption. This lifeline comes in the form of one of our very own who has already helped hundreds of thousands of Americans resurface and face their challenges. Peter Walsh, who is known across the world for his work on The Oprah Show, Rachael Ray and in our own backyard on The Living Room which is aired on Channel Ten.

Peter has answered a clarion call and has returned to help his fellow Aussies turn (in some cases) chaos into health and order. Peter asks his signature question, “Does the stuff you own help you live the life you want.?” With that question echoing through the minds of many he proceeds to help by building back into people.

February 21st Peter will be at the Sydney Theatre for a 1 Night Only Live Event where he will engage & entertain his audience whilst leaving them equipped to head home with the desire to live the life they want and deserve. This event is not to be missed. Book your tickets now Don’t delay!

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Peter Walsh understands people. With a background in education followed by working in drug abuse prevention and health promotion in Australia and then in developing health, education and training programs for schools and corporations. Peter has developed a unique understanding of the ‘Why behind the What’. Often times, it is the stuff that we all see but Peter is able to go beyond the stuff and find out why. Once the why is understood, it is from that place that he helps people let go and begin to rebuild.

How is a Live experience with Peter different than what we see on TV? Peter is a personality and he brings it all onto the stage. He comes ready to solve problems and bring solutions in a completely unique style. There will be laughter, a few tears and anyone who attends will definitely leave inspired, motivated and wanting more of Peter’s wisdom and amazing solutions.

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